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Bullies unaware what they're doing is wrong, mother of bullied boy says
SURREY/CKNW (AM980)
CKNW News Staff | Email news tips to nwnews@cknw.com
10/12/2012

In the wake of a 15-year-old Maple Ridge girl taking her own life because she had been bullied, the mother of another teen who killed himself is speaking out.

Nasima Nastoh's son, Hamed, jumped off the Patullo bridge when he was 14 because he had been bullied.

As school officials say they will continue to raise awareness about bullying after teen Amanda Todd killed herself this week, Nastoh has bigger ideas.

Speaking with CKNW’s Phillip Till, the Surrey mother says some kids don't know that what they're doing is wrong.

"The bullies need more education, information and sensitivity. We should make a program at school, every morning for one hour."

Tributes continue to flood social media sites for Amanda, who posted a video about being bullied on YouTube. 

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  1. AnneH_4 posted on 10/12/2012 08:22 AM
    This has become more than bullying - It is more like manslaughter

    There was a program on CHQR today with Rutherford as host. His guest said the people who terrorize others do not care. It does not affect them at all.

    At the same time he also said that it just takes a couple of these kids to tell everyone to stop what they are doing. Mob mentality it would seem.

    This has got to stop right now and the parents must get more involved in their childrens' lives
  2. MaggieC posted on 10/12/2012 08:55 AM
    Why did this young girl have to deal with this alone? Where were her friends who must have known she was in a state of extreme distress? Thugs and bullies can only continue if nobody stands up to them and make no mistake, by hounding her they are complicit in her death.
    I am always amazed at how many 'friends' set up a memorial and talk about what a great person the target was but stood by and let it happen when she was alive.
    Appalling behavior all round.
    1. GregT posted on 10/12/2012 10:20 AM
      @MaggieC ..and another question I have is, where was Dad?...she became a cutter, you can't tell me no one didn't notice this...scars and all. I totally agree that this is manslaughter..and should be dealt as such. We know nothing will come out of this, but if we stay silent we are complicit in her death. We must shout from the rooftops, "parents get involved in your child's life!!!!"...there is no reason, only excuses to not do so....I would love to see a poster made with all her notes on it, and posted in every school wherever there's a place on a wall...NOW!!!..no meetings needed.
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  3. JD_9814 posted on 10/12/2012 11:04 AM
    GregT's suggests a Poster, (see above)

    , "...I would love to see a poster made with all her notes on it, and posted in every school wherever there's a place on a wall. ."

    This is a great idea, hope someone within the schools, media, or elsewhere picks up the idea.
    1. commonsense posted on 10/12/2012 11:24 AM
      @JD_9814 Every school should make aware who the bullies are. How? Have their images posted in the school. Guess what? You want to bully people around, let's have the whole school know who you are because, as psychologists often suggest, bullying is a cry for attention. Here's your attention!

      I saw bullying in elementary and high school, and then I saw it carry on throughout university. I remember someone I attended high school with was not the most academically talented, but very hard working and was often bullied for how you dressed, worked hard in school and his social awkwardness that it came to a point where he just wanting to give up. Now, he has a very prominent career, one hell of an education and is making a great life for himself.

      Bullying needs to stop, but ending your life should not be an alternative, we need life stories showing and telling people how bullying made them better, and encourage the bullying to end now!
    2. GregT posted on 10/12/2012 12:42 PM
      @JD_9814 I can only hope that someone with the know-all sees the poster idea....
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  4. DeceitinDrugsD posted on 10/13/2012 08:42 AM
    I totally agree that bullies have their own personal
    problems, which leads them to bully.

    Personality plays a huge part in any bullying/suicide
    incidents.

    The bully is usually hiding behind a mask of being
    tough and seeking attention by using other people's
    anquish to satifiy his own hurts.

    The vicitm of bullying may have low self-esteem, may
    be more pacif and thus vulnerable to a bully.

    The bully has an over-powering personality and uses this
    to control his world in efforts to come out on top.

    Bullies are young people, who are misquided and need
    help and it starts with parenting at home and the family
    home envoronment in addition to a person;s mental
    state.

    There are so many factors,w hich play into such a tradgedy
    and there needs to be more one on one support for teens
    caught up in such negative activity.
  5. MelodyC_6492 posted on 10/14/2012 02:17 AM
    This is so sad. When will it ever stop. I know exactly what that poor mother is going through. My daughter to is very much bullied at the age of 16 and still continues today. Why? not sure. We live in a smaller community so school choices are not many. My daughter has been a larger girl since age of 3. Going to pre-school it started with kids calling her fat and not wanting to be with her. Thinking its pre-school it will get better (by now she has sever anxiety issue's by the age of 5) these same children have been with her through and up to today, presently she's in grade 11. Some of the school years have been better, but majority its been a living nightmare. Daughter has self harmed (cutting), tried drugs, and for the past 3 years with have been doing counseling on a monthly basis. She is not alone with family, but its with friends she is, and to have your child go through school on a daily basis with no friends is heartbreaking, and family is not enough. And when there are happy times that your daughter starts to have some friends, they are not true friends and really they are at times worse than the bullies. Its very heartbreaking, and as a mother i can't stop the hurt she feels, because i am not the one hurting her. Is she better today? Some days I would tell you yes, but then there are those days where I fear that one day she may just give up and make the hurt go away. Its a daily struggle within myself to understand why? Why do other children want to hurt someone else so badly? Why have they hurt my child? I sometimes wonder if am I doing enough, can the schools do more, and should these bullies be accountable for their actions in school as well as outside of school, should parents of the bullies be accountable as well?
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